Sunday, March 17, 2013

Is a Parent of a Homosexual Supposed to Support Gay Marriage?


Last week, Ohio Senator Rob Portman was in the headlines for announcing that he had changed his decades-long opposition to same-sex marriage.  He did so because his young adult son had informed him that he was  homosexual.

“I have come to believe that if two people are prepared to make a lifetime commitment, to love and care for each other in good times and in bad, the government shouldn’t deny them the opportunity to get married.”

For any parent to learn of a child’s sexually-gay orientation must be very upsetting, independently of the parent’s policy views.  There is no doubt that a life confronted by prejudice from large segments of society awaits, notwithstanding the lessening of public hostility which polls suggest is now occurring. 
But why should one’s views of the appropriate uniqueness of traditional marriage be changed by the fact that a parent loves a son who wants to marry a man?  Of course, a loving father wants happiness for his offspring.  But is the pursuit of individual happiness the only factor to be considered? 

Senator Portman, by all accounts, is a respected, thoughtful public official who was previously an active and outspoken supporter of the Federal Defense of Marriage Act.  Presumably, that was a well-considered position, not fraught with emotion or hostility to happiness for homosexuals.  I do not know whether the GOP lawmaker’s original views were based on religious beliefs, the fact that traditional marriage has long served as a bedrock of society or some other reasons.  But since Portman has not expressed an explanation for his new support for gay marriage, other than he has a family member who does, strongly suggests that his heart won out over his head. 
Certainly, he is not to be condemned for that very human decision.  But neither should it be given weight as a thoughtful challenge to the historical definition of marriage. 

If one believes that stealing is wrong, the fact that his child is a thief should not justify a call to banish the proscription.

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